Wednesday Words

A friend of mine posted this and I wanted to share it with you all.,


By Marc

Letting the opinions of others control your life. It’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. You have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.

The shame of past failures. Your past does not equal your future.  All that matters is what you do right now.

Being indecisive about what you want. You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be. Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately.

Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you. There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now.

Choosing to do nothing. You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when. You can only decide how you are going to live, right now. Every day is a new chance to choose.

Your need to be right. Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong, because when you do you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.

Running from problems that should be fixed. Stop running! Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and love the people in your life who deserve it.

 Making excuses rather than decisions. Most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.

 Overlooking the positive points in your life. What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for. You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now.

Not appreciating the present moment. Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things.


Social Security Rant

A couple of days ago I received in the mail something that was not totally unexpected but nevertheless frustrating. I know I will offend some people with this post, especially given the current economic situation. If you are I apologize in advance.

 My claim for disability benefits has been denied for the third time.  The letter states that I am not disabled as defined in the Social Security act.. Disability is defined as the inability to engage in any substantial gainful activity by reason of any medically determinable physical or mental impairment or combination of impairments that can be expected to result in death or that has lasted or can be expected to last for a continuous period of not more than 12 months.

 In 2010 I had to leave a job that I held for seven years. During  that time I went through a couple of surgeries and injuries that required me to be out of work for weeks at a time. I always returned to work as soon as it was physically possible.  This was true for my entire working career from the age of 14 up till September of 2010. I have never shirked from working. I even worked full-time while attending nursing school when I was 28. 10 years later, a slip in the shower resulting in a fractured disk ended my nursing career. By the time the disability department in the state in which we were living had decided I should go into a retraining program I had already found another job. While working as a nurse’s aide and a nurse I have been kicked punched, bitten as well as endured several back injuries. This in addition to arthritic knees and circulatory problems, both of which have worsened over the years. I now walk with a cane or walker depending on how long I will be on my feet. Many nights I would come home from work exhausted and in pain and in tears, Tylenol did not help the pain, nonsteroidal anti-inflammatories upset my stomach, a condition made even worse by a stressful job. Any other pain killers prescribed to me rendered me unable to perform the duties of my job, so I had to make do with what I could handle.

 I don’t tell you this to brag, but to prove my point. I’m, not looking to be another sponger. I just cannot physically work any more. I can no longer stand on my feet for extended lengths of time, nor can I sit for extended lengths of time. My condition won’t even allow me to work in an office setting The pain is bad enough at times I have trouble concentrating.

 Back in July I had a hearing in front of the office of disability adjudication and review with the administrative law judge. After the hearing my lawyer was not positive about the outcome but being the optimist I didn’t want to think about that. Now that 12 page denial notice is sorely trying that optimism.


Yes, I realize that Social Security is in trouble. Yes, I realize there are people who are bilking the system and I refuse to believe I’m the only one with a condition that should be positively considered instead of a flat out denial. And so many are ruining it for those in true need.  This year I will be 58. I know that is not old. I tell you this just so you know how long I have been paying into the system. A system I could access either when I was retired or if for some reason I am no longer able to work. It’s extremely frustrating to have to jump through hoops to actually gain this access.

 I will now get off my soapbox. After I speak with my lawyer we can decide what the next step would be. Thank you for letting me vent and I will keep you posted on my battle.

Pink Lady-coincidence?

Available today on Amazon for kindle is my first in a series of mysteries. The Pink Lady is the first in a series of the same title. It is set in  a haunted bed and breakfast in Massachusetts. Here is the blurb…

“Old Ghosts are good for business but dead bodies are not. “
The Pink Lady is a venerable Victorian home located near Cape Cod, in Massachusetts.
Anna Murray inherits the home from her uncle and decides to turn it into a bed and breakfast with the help of the two resident ghosts, Reggie and Leticia Farnsworth and BJ Kent, a contractor who specializes in Victorian restorations.
As Anna and BJ peel back the layers of grime, the layers of time reveal the truth behind the death of the Farnsworth’s so many years ago. Their present day situation has parallels to the Farnsworth’s, can Anna and BJ solve the mystery before it reaches the same sinister conclusions?

I did a Google search on the books title, just see if there was another one out there. Imagine my surprise when one of the first listing was…

The ghost of the Pink Lady. Check it out! 

Coincidence or good omen?  My vote is for good omen.

Check out The Pink Lady 

If so inclined, I would greatly appreciate if you left a review on Amazon after you read it.


Weekend Thoughts

Have had some crazy thoughts this weekend, maybe it’s the pain pills. Humidity and I do not get along.

1-my body is turning into a human barometer. between my sinuses and my joints who needs a weather man?

2. Who decides just how much glue is needed to keep a box closed.

This after I spent 15 minutes trying to open the box with the ink cartridges for my printer.

3.Thank god for text messages or I’d hate to see what my phone bill would be like.

4. If a spoonful of sugar doesn’t make the medicine go down. Try tequila. Goes great with ice tea or diet Dr. Pepper.

5. I really missed my Dad today. I used to tell him if I knew I would be in this much pain when I was older, i might have tried to be more graceful when I was younger. But I wouldn’t have had half the fun

6. My legs may fall asleep when Yerbie is on my lap but he makes a damn good keyboard tray:)

Hope everyone has a good week!

Wednesday Words

I have found this to be true more often than you would think.

‎”When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you till it seems you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” – Harriet Beecher

The Crowded Grave – Martin Walker

THE CROWDED GRAVE is the next in Martin’ Walkers wonderful series with his Chief of Police Bruno. I have very quickly fallen in love with these books and the characters, especially Bruno and his beloved town of St. Denis.

In THE CEOWDED GRAVE, an archaeological dig turns into a crime scene when a skeleton is found. Instead of one that is thousands of years old, as you would expect in an archaeological dig.  This body was killed  roughly thirty years ago. Is it related to the Basque Terrorists? Why are they bothering with his beloved St. Denis?

And lets not forget the two women in his life and the food.  Every time he describes a meal being cooked my mouth waters.

These books are wonderful, the mysteries are masterfully plotted. Every time I think I had it figured out, something would happen to give me just a shred of doubt in my decision.

If you’ve not enter the world of Bruno and the town of St Denis treat yourself to the first book BRUNO CHIEF OF POLICE.  The books do not have to be read in  order but it does make it more enjoyable.  You can also check out Bruno’s website